I was talking to my hairdresser about this recently. I finally found one of those stylists, the infamous ones you can tell everything to. I gained her respect when I told her the story about bringing home a sexy Argentinian for a threesome with my former fiance. I also invited her to a Taoist Jade Egg class I was taking: vaginal weight lifting exercises for women.
Me: “What is tantra to you?”
My stylist/confidante: “Being present while you’re humping.”
That pretty much sums it up.