Tuesday, June 02, 2009
Modern Love and Legendary Cocks
Many thanks to Madeline for Fleshbotting my Legendary Cocks post (written in a trembling, post-fucked frenzy) and making said cock even more legendary. It deserves it.
We've published our second issue over at F/lthy Gorgeous Th/ngs, called Modern Love. There are fantastic written pieces on love/lust in the modern age, including a Post-Porn Manifesto, debauchette's stories of epic sluttery and the men who love them, as well as pieces by me on Webcam Love, Intimacy in Numbers and Composite Loving. There you go; if I'm not writing about cocks I love, I'm writing about exhibitionism, marathon sex and group sex.
Enjoy!
K
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Thursday, May 28, 2009
Cock Love ii. Tales of Legendary Cocks.
I just had sex with the most phenomenal cock I've ever met.
I say 'cock' rather than 'person' because I'm going to venture that the cock is an extension of the man, and this man is a king among men. Alpha male to blast all alpha males. To fuck the source of all that energy - I'm still trembling, stars in my eyes and all a glow. I melt with this man, melt all over his cock. And let his cock melt inside me.
It also happens to be the biggest, most beautifully formed cock I've ever met. I've bragged about this cock - its breadth and responsiveness and how he has to carry it across the room. He never wears underwear. He just lets that magnificent thing swing loose, and able to be plucked freely out of his pants at any time by my mouth.
I'm totally in love.
It's the kind of cock I'd cross continents for. I can barely type, I'm jittery still.
I'd post an image of an almost similar cock, but it just wouldn't do it justice.
*sigh.*Labels: cock love
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Sunday, April 26, 2009
F/lthy Gorgeous Th/ngs
Without further ado, allow me to introduce:
filthygorgeousthings.com
If you are just tuning in, F/lthy Gorgeous Th/ngs, or ‘fgt’ is the creation of debauchette, myself, and a few others. It’s been borne out of a shared love of sex, art and transgression and is a home for intelligent and visceral sexual content in various forms: writing, photography, video and audio in the form of an online magazine. I’ve written about the site before in my Postmodern Pornography post and debauchette describes her take on ‘art porn’. In a sentence: it’s haute porn with a heart. Our ethos is to offer finely edited, quality content rather than ‘something for everyone.’
We publish a feature issue monthly and have regular columns that update from daily to biweekly. I write a column called ‘Sacred, Profane’. Initially, the site will be available gratis and we’ll be adding a subscription model in the coming weeks for our next issue. We also operate with a patron system, much like the art museum model. With it, we offer devoted connoisseurs the opportunity to commission original work and help fund more ambitious projects for the magazine. Future additions to the site include a retail boutique and a member’s area which will allow like-minded hedonists to connect. The Daily Fix, our fgt tumblr, will always be free.
If you are looking for a home for your risque work, please get in touch. We'd love to hear your feedback and suggestions on the site in general.
Excelsior!
Kasia
Images: the mofo and 'first time sinner' by art collective cuminthestreetsLabels: filthy fuckers, genteel porn
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Wednesday, April 01, 2009
Open letter to photographers
I just received an email yesterday from a photographer, the likes of which were as follows:
"You have a photo on your web site that you do not have permission to use. Take it down! Where did you get this photo? It's a photo of a girl on a bed with her but (sic) exposed."
At first, I was thinking that someone was impersonating said photographer: the language, the tone - it was so juvenile that I had a hard time believing this was written by any sort of professional. I double-checked and yes, definitely written by the photographer.
My response:
"Happily.
However, since I have about 175 pages on both of my sites, perhaps you could be a little more clear - such as sending me a link - as to where you saw this photo. "a girl on a bed with her but exposed" isn't quite enough to help me find it.
As to where I found your photo? I have no idea, at least not until I see it. I probably found it on another non-commercial site that posts pictures from photographers whose works they love. That's actually how I learn about photographers I like so I can pay them to do photo sets for me in the future. I believe you've already been in contact with debauchette, who is my partner in an upcoming online magazine, to do a paid photo set with her. I'll let her know you probably aren't suitable for us."
I will absolutely remove anyone's photographic work from my tumblr or blog - both non-commercial, not for profit sites - though I'd prefer that someone ask in a polite and dignified manner. Given the current climate of viral marketing and publicity, my posting a credited image (well, I think it was, I still don't know what image this person was referring to - oh wait, of course, it's the one of a girl's 'but') on a non-commercial site doesn't seem like it warrants an obnoxious request. However, in the end, the work belongs to that person and if they feel their rights are being encroached upon, it's their call to make.
What I'd like to say is this: before I started posting on my tumblr last year and by so doing, viewing many other people's tumblrs and resultant links in the process, I didn't know who 80% of the photographers were whose work I post. I learned about it through tumblrs I like - meaning we have similar taste and I look forward to their choices in content. A major impetus for even starting the tumblr, and restarting my blog for that matter, was to extend out into the vast web of like-minded people and find others like me. To connect.
When someone reprints blog pieces or excerpts of mine elsewhere online my first response is that I'm flattered. My second is that I am grateful for the additional influx of new traffic that I otherwise would not have had. Occasionally, people write to me for permission to repost my (written) work, which is a lovely and respectful gesture, but for me also not necessary. Apart from the strange aggregate mirrors of content I find once in a while that seem to duplicate my blog in its entirety, I'm absolutely fine with it.
There's a fantastic piece written by Courtney Love for Salon.com quite some time ago where she goes into her thoughts on music 'piracy.' I'm extending that to cover 'piracy' in general. The reality as I see it is that anything that's already online is both copyright and in a sense free for distribution with proper attribution. It's an unwritten code and sometimes written because in this online era, that's how news travels - everything is viral.
As debauchette and I step into launching fgt, we're faced with real questions such as: What value can we offer in original content (that we pay for) if it can just get lifted and reposted elsewhere? Do we pay for photographs that are already widely distributed online? Why would we?
Our intention is to create a venue that houses almost entirely original content. We'll pay for that. If we run something that is already out there, we'll gain permission to run it and not pay for it. In our minds, people are benefiting from their work being distributed to a wider audience. And we enjoy being able to introduce people we love to other people we love.
The thing I dislike about tumblrs is when people deliberately remove the name of the author/photographer. That's errant. An argument I've heard is: "It's my own personal scrapbook; I don't want all those messy names cluttering up my page." Em, right. I sometimes reblog/post images that are not credited, (only after searching through link after link in hopes of finding the artist). Reluctantly. I get the idea of wanting to collect something even when I can't attribute it to its rightful author, but I would never deliberately remove a credit.
My suggestion? Lighten up. Stop biting the hands that will feed you. Republishing your already published work seems like more of a compliment and a way of extending your reach. For free. Eventually, in gaining more fans and prospective clients, it will bring you money. I'll pay you. But I can't pay you if I never discover you.
I'm very curious to hear points of view from all parties involved in these situations.
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Tuesday, March 17, 2009
Savage lust please
debauchette and I are looking for reader submissions for a couple of areas on our new site. Hot, steamy, sweaty, lust and love filled somethings are what we're after. They can be pithy one-liners or paragraphs of seduction, confession or wanting. Perhaps a post (or during) coital snapshot. Be honest and raw. Heartfelt. Or loinfelt as the case may be. Think: a sexual Post Secret.
If you've seen both of our blogs and tumblrs (mine, hers), you have a sense of our aesthetic.
Your submission may be text, video, audio or photographic in format or some combination thereof. Please email to: editor@fgtmedia.com All personal information will remain in confidence and you may of course submit anonymously, with a pseudonym or receive credit for your entry. Sending us your secret grants us permission to edit, own and use it in the future.Labels: call for submission, filthy fuckers
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Sunday, March 01, 2009
Getting back in touch
Hello there.
I've been awfully remiss in writing lately. debauchette and I have been focused on getting things together to launch fgt, which is set to go live mid-March (insert breath holding here). She refers to this project as our "webby love child," which seems perfectly apropos. Here's a little preview:
I also took a break from chronicling my post break up process because I needed to gain some distance from it all. I seem to have that now and feel like I can start gearing up in my life again. For a person who is decidedly sexual, I can go for periods where I'm rather asexual. But I think I just end up imploding on myself. It's not me in my most natural or exuberant state. It's me in suppression. When my libido is screeching, I'm usually in top form all around.
I'm going to attempt a friendship with my ex. I oscillate about it constantly but I'm going to see how we go. When I really accept that there are pieces of us that just aren't compatible, I can move beyond and accept the parts that are. No guy has ever been friends with me and tried not to fuck me though. I wish him luck.
I realized today that the most significant love relationships I've had have been with men who are outsiders. They do their own thing, they exist on the fringes of the cultural flow and in their self-made realities. It made me think about how I see myself that way. I've spent a long time shunning crowds and the all too human activity of um, socializing. I chipped away at a very large piece of armor today that I've worn for many years. It has prevented me from opening to life and people in ways that make everything more meaningful. I was keeping myself protected but cutting myself off at the same time. It was cathartic and a long time coming. I felt so sure about it today as I spoke to someone - sure about cleaning up the messes and hurts of the past and creating something instead which is about love and support. I let myself be vulnerable and expose what is probably my deepest wound thus far in this lifetime. Because when that wound happened, my whole world changed. And now, 13 years later, I'm changing it back.
It's funny. You know, there's a tempo you hit with people when you're both open. Something in the voice changes. It gets richer - it's infused with love. And when that's there, it's the only thing to hold onto. That tone, that depth and hearing it, whatever it takes to get there is the only journey worth taking.
Oh, and I have a twitter now. I thought it would be an interesting challenge to write these short 140 character sentences to bookmark parts of one's life. Like a haiku on the run. It's that, and it's a way to shout out to all sorts of people in abbreviated poetry - somewhat less intimidating than having entire conversations. I think the British take to it better though. They're all about the witty endnote, which I love.
I'm shy about these things so please introduce yourself there.
Much love,
K
xx
Photo: from our very cool fucking magazine about fucking.Labels: haikus and such
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Thursday, February 26, 2009
Natural birth control
Question: Which method of birth control is 99.9% effective (actually it's 100%, but I'm told that statistically you just can't say that), doesn't involved inserting any foreign objects or drugs into the body and isn't abstinence?
Answer: The Billings, or mucous method.
I'm often shocked at how many people, especially women people, haven't heard of it. Discovered/invented by Australian husband and wife team, Dr. John and Evelyn Billings, it's an entirely natural means of diagnosing fertility.
It makes sense that since every other female on the planet of other species gives clear signs of fertility, that humans ought to as well.
We do.
Most people are aware that female ovulation takes place sometime during the middle part of a woman's menstrual cycle - approximately Day 14. The cervix is plugged with a thick, impenetrable mucous (read: hostile to sperm) up until just before ovulation. The plug protects the uterus from random debris and infection. And sperm.
A few days before ovulation, the plug loosens and falls from the opening of the cervix, thus allowing entry. The cervix remains open for about a week to 10 days and then the plug forms again. What the Billings' discovered is that the mucous has a measurable consistency. It's these observations that allow women to monitor their own fertility. The mucous has a certain thickness prior to the plug dissolving; it changes when the plug drops and it changes again when the plug reforms.
When I first read about the method, I began to apply it immediately. I'd gone off the pill a few years earlier because it felt intuitively wrong to be on it. I eat a clean, organic diet so shoving a bunch of carcinogenic hormones into my body seemed pretty counter-productive. In the same way, an IUD felt wrong. I've never tried a diaphragm and condoms just suck for many reasons.
I've used this method on and off for years. And...well... I have gotten pregnant. I must disclaim here though.
I read the material and I understood how it worked. I've used it with various sexual partners but due to my love of a certain demographic, a largely vasectomized demographic, I'd grown lax in my meticulousness. During the time I did get pregnant, I wasn't diligent in my observations. I was having a lot of sex. My partner liked to come inside me.
What's recommended (and what I've since followed), is daily charting of one's cycle. It's super easy to do and can actually be kind of hot. Your lover can walk up behind you while you are cooking dinner, slide his hand into your cunt and tell you what's happening there. Then you run off to the bedroom, put a sticker on the chart and either finish dinner or start fucking.
The catch is that during ovulation, when women often experience a surge in libido, they'll be far more susceptible to pregnancy. You can use condoms here or just become devoted throat and ass fuckers. I vote for the latter.
When the method is followed, it's 100% effective. It's when people assume they understand and they actually don't, that it's open to risk. Or people get lazy (like I did). There are Billings educators all over the world who will meet with singles and couples to give a brief presentation on how the method works. They'll supply you with a chart and stickers and additional information. After having the 20 minute presentation, I understood the process *much* better (I absorb better experientially rather than through books). If you google Billings you can likely find someone in your area who can explain. If you learn well from books, it's written about extensively.
Photo: source unknown, found viaLabels: a good time for ass fucking, natural birth control
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